Indian Women on Sex, Size and Orgasm!

By Admin Posted Jun 30 2016 at 6:24 AM

It’s a false notion that men need sex more than women. According to a research, a woman’s sexual motives are primarily driven by love and commitment. But latest findings reveal that women have sex for the same reasons as men – pure pleasure.

In one of her articles, years ago, writer Shobha De had commented that in the earlier days women simply hitched up their saris, closed their eyes and thought of Dilip Kumar when indulging in sex. That is not the scene anymore as urban Indian women have freed themselves from the chains of guilt to gift themselves good, therapeutic satisfying sex. They are now open to means of exploring their sexuality with the use of sex toys or wearing sexy lingerie.

Dr. Mahindra Watsa, a renowned sex counselor says that in rural areas, procreation is the main reason for sex. Women have sex to start a family. However, today young women are more open and treat sex as a means for self-pleasure. According to him,

Premarital sex is on the rise in urban India with almost 30% of women choosing to indulge in sex before marriage. Nowadays even married women do not shy away from speaking about their sexuality to inactive husbands.

The eternal question is how important is sex for women? Even though for women aged from 20 to 40, love was a high priority for sex, there were several interesting reasons that prompted them to sleep with men who may not have been their ideal men. Here are some of the factors that motivate feisty Indian ladies for that spontaneous quickie or a roll in the hay…

Stress Buster

Women in high-stress jobs or those feeling depressed couldn’t stop raving about the therapeutic properties of sex. “It distresses me,” said a 32-year- old advertising professional. Another attractive computer programmer said sex sent her into a tizzy when she was feeling down and out. The release of feel-good hormones during sex left them feeling happy and gave them a good night’s sleep.

Best cure for stress: Sex

Sex, The Natural Stress Buster.

Bonding

“Sex brought me closer to my partner emotionally as well as physically”

 

- Female Freelance Journalist

Sex brings intimacy. Sex makes a woman feel desirable to her partner. It helps the couple bond at an intimate level.” I can’t imagine sex without love or love without sex.

“It’s more than a physical act. I feel good about being wanted by my man. Sex is important to reinstate love. It makes me feel happy, satisfied and content”                                                            - Media Professional

Sex is not merely a biological need.

Emotional bonding is good for sex

Bonding makes sex special and guilt free for women

Security

According to a 35-year-old stylist, her first husband was the ideal man but sex with him was simply not great. However, her second husband is awesome in bed and she is crazy about him even though she earns more than him and is not the ideal ‘provider’.

A lot of women feel that a good home and good status are enough to keep a marriage going.

Sex helps increase the feeling of security with your partner.

Feeling of emotional security after sex.

Pleasure

More women today unabashedly proclaim their desire for pleasure when it comes to sex. A whopping 50% of the women said that “they just wanted some” and cited “hormonal reasons”. “Hormones have feelings too,” said one media professional with a straight face!

Pleasure is the main reason to have sex

Its not sex, if there is no pleasure.

Some more humorous reasons why women said they had sex?

  • One said she did it for a spiritual experience, as she thought it to be “the closest thing to God”
  • “Cure for stress, headache, and clear complexion”
  • Another cited the reason “I have sex to relieve the boredom because it’s easier than fighting. Plus it gives me something to do.”
  • Responses also included “he bought me a nice dinner” or “he gave me gifts early on” and ”he showed me he had an extravagant lifestyle”
  • The majority admitted that sex helped them find peace or to bargain for their partners to carry out household chores

ON PENIS SIZE

The size of a man’s tool is always a topic of discussion or debate. When it comes to matters of sex, size does matter to men. They tend to believe that bigger is better. The length of the penis is a hot topic for discussion and wonder for most women. But gauging a man by the size of his penis is next to impossible. Even a man with triceps and 6 packs can break a woman’s fantasy if he fails to satisfy her sexually.

Does size really matter? Not really, this is why?.

It is the strength and function of the penis which counts. The female vagina is elastic and around 6 inches in length. The outer 1/3 area, that is 2 inches, contains numerous nerve endings responsible for pleasure and orgasm. This area includes the G-spot too. So beyond this area, the remaining 2/ 3 area of the vagina is insensitive. This means that the optimal length of the penis in an erect state has to be little more than 2 inches.

A survey of some Indian women was taken on penis size. Here are some interesting things that they had to say:

1. Size doesn’t matter

It’s a wrong notion that women prefer men with larger dicks. One woman who had sex with men with large and average size penises commented that the size did not matter to her. In fact, the big one was great for blowjobs but painful for sex as she was small. Sex with a man with a smaller penis was easier to do oral with. In fact, the man with smaller size knew just how to satisfy her with his tongue. Size did not really matter here.

2. Big size has its limitations

A woman once commented that her man’s dick girth (circumference) was so large that she couldn’t fit it into her mouth during a blowjob. In fact, the oral ended giving her sore jaws. Sex too was very painful as his dick was just too big for her smaller vagina. She preferred smaller penis.

3. Small is better

One lady preferred men with extra small dicks any day because she thought such men were aware of their handicap and took extra special care to arouse her, finger her, lick her and give her unforgettable orgasms.

4. Just for the experience

An investment banker woman was of the opinion that she would like to have sex with a man with a huge sized dick purely for the experience, just to know what the fuss about big dicks is all about. There are penis enlargement products which can increase your size.

A big dick does not mean a great partner. Much of sex is about touch, anticipation, generosity, comfort levels, tenderness, things that have nothing to do with penis size and everything to do with the energy and chemistry between two people.

Sex is about caring and making a girl feel wanted. Penetration is just one of the acts and there are many other things that can be done to satisfy a girl.

Sex is not math, it’s an art. It’s not about the size but what you do with it.

5. ON ORGASMS

Earlier, sex was considered as a woman’s marital duty and obligation towards her husband. Women did not freely discuss their sexual problems or desires. Around 72% women experienced frustration when their partner climaxed but made no attempt to help them finish. Leaving a woman high and dry might come from a lack of understanding, but it also reflects our cultural views of men’s versus women’s pleasure.

After all, it takes much longer on average for a woman to orgasm (up to 20 or even 40 minutes, some experts say), and yet the standard expectation is that sex ends when a man comes.

However, today the scenario has changed. Now a radical change has come about in the Indian woman’s mindset. Women are more independent and free-spirited and are demanding their sexual right to orgasm and satisfaction. Indian women are bolder and openly discuss their sexual needs and desires. There has been a paradigm shift in the manner in which women are asserting their sexual rights.Indian women sex

Some Indian women explain what pushes them over the edge in a way nothing else can:

It’s Oral all the Way

Most women love to receive oral sex. Women love having someone go down on them. 70% of women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Oral sex is a great way to deliver orgasmic stimulation. One copywriter from an advertising agency had this advice for men,

“Don’t tell women that you don’t go down on girls. Unless you are willing to live a life without blowjobs, this is an unacceptable thing to say. Your dick doesn’t taste that great either!”

Most women fake it

Most women can act as well as Meryl Streep in the bedroom.

“I used to have the horrible habit of lying about coming, though. I never would turn down sex with a boyfriend just because I was tired or didn’t feel like it—I thought it was my obligation to at least pretend to enjoy sex all the time”                                                                          -Female Visual Artist

You know what is hot? It is so hot when you communicate well and listen with compassion. Attention, care, listening and responding of bodies lay the groundwork for a good orgasm. It is trust and sharing and vulnerability.  Some women aren’t comfortable voicing what they want in the bedroom. That’s unfortunate, and perhaps those women should follow in the footsteps of the women who are.

So how are women actually achieving orgasm, if they’re not always coming from their partners? Often, it’s on their own. The survey found that 39% of women reach most of their orgasms through the use of a hand or vibrators.

With increased awareness about sex and sexual problems, sex is no longer a dark room activity. One can say that a sexual revolution is occurring in our country. In India, people are opening about their sexual desires and trying out new things to spice their sex life. One being, introducing sex toys into their bedroom. Indians are buying sex toys online at ThatsPersonal.

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  • Chandra Sekhar

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