Woman’s Arousal and Orgasm – All you need to know!Aleena Jun 6 2016 at 12:54 PM
Orgasm (from Greek orgasmos -excitement, swelling; also sexual climax) is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure-Wikipedia.
The above is a text book definition. But in actuality, orgasms make us happy and dumb. During this phase of a woman’s arousal, part of her brain shuts down and everything outside the orgasm seems to lose focus. Orgasm leaves us feeling relaxed in almost a meditative sort of way.
An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away –Mae West
A woman’s orgasm has been one of the most discussed topics of the century and one shrouded in mystery. Female orgasm continues to remain an enigma. A lot of research has been carried out on the topic of woman’s arousal but so far not much conclusive deduction has come from the research that would throw some light on the topic of woman’s arousal and orgasm. According to medical science woman’s arousal remains, today, very much what it was over 45 years ago.
According to US researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson during sexual activity women go through the following four phases:
- Excitement or arousal phase During this phase upon touch, caress, fondling or kissing the body starts preparing for sex. The heart rate and pulse rise, nipples get taut, skin flushes red with the flow of blood and vagina gets wet by secretion of a fluid.
- Plateau phase In this stage the clitoris gets aroused and the body starts to prepare itself for orgasm. Also, the walls of the vagina begin to swell.
- Orgasm phase During this phase the body undergoes sexual stimulation resulting in contraction of pelvic muscles, cries of pleasure and contractions and spasms throughout the body.
- Resolution phase Once the woman’s arousal is complete the woman’s body begins to recover and her heart rate and blood pressure begin to normalize. However, if she is sexually aroused again she is capable of an orgasm again. Most women only require a short resting period to give their nervous system a chance to calm down and reset before they’re ready for more stimulation and pleasure. Because of this much faster turnaround time, women are more likely than men to enjoy multiple orgasms.
It takes a woman, on average, 15 – 40 minutes of arousal to orgasm while it usually takes a man two to seven minutes of arousal before he climaxes.
The human body has several erogenous zones or hot spots as we may call them. Identifying these erogenous zones can improve sexual satisfaction among partners and hence improve sexual health. The different erogenous zones on the women’s body are:
- Clitoris This is the most sensitive part of the woman’s body. Vibrating, stroking and putting pressure on a woman’s clitoris is a sure shot to achieve woman’s arousal. Due to the concentration of 8,000 nerve endings in a very tiny space, this love button can trigger orgasms easily and reliably. Stimulating the clitoris is the easiest way to give the woman an orgasm. An orgasm is like a standing ovation at the end of a sexual performance. One can stimulate the clitoris in many different ways — manually, orally, or by using body pressure or a vibrator.
- Vagina The internal walls of the vagina contain the elusive G spot which is supposed to be the powerhouse of sexual pleasure. The G spot is the most sensitive spot of the woman’s genital area and stimulation can lead to orgasms and even multiple orgasms. When you first touch this area, it might feel as if you have to pee. That is because the area of the G-spot surrounds the urethra, the tube you urinate through. The sensation may subside after a few seconds of massage. Your G-spot can also be stimulated by a partner’s fingers or penis, a dildo, or a G-spot vibrator.
- Cervix The cervix is located at the lower end of the uterus and has numerous nerve endings too. When the cervix is stimulated with light touch or pressure it can result in woman’s arousal.
- Breasts and nipples Men and women both are easily aroused by pressure and vibration of the breasts and nipples. Turns out that nipple stimulation send signals to the same region of the brain as nerves from from the clitoris and vagina. Around 25% of women enjoy nipple orgasms.
- Mouth and Lips Kissing is the first step to sexual arousal. A lot of women rank the lips and mouth as highly erogenous regions of the body.
- Neck The neck and nape region can be quite a turn on in woman’s arousal. According to a large international survey of women, both the nape and back of the neck are among the top 10 erogenous zones.
- Ears Like the other erogenous zones the ears have a large number of nerve endings making it a highly sensitive zone in the fields of woman’s arousal. Whispering, licking and biting the ears and ear lobes can be quite a turn on in females.
Around 70% of women do not orgasm by penetration alone. They need clitoral stimulation. There are lot of women who assume that there must be something wrong with them because they cannot seem to orgasm while having sex. However, this is quite normal and common and does not imply that anything is wrong with the woman. Most women do not require intercourse for orgasm and rely on other means of sexual stimulation like that of the clitoris or G-spot. The clitoris, although tiny, has just about as many nerve endings as a penis and is the only organ in the human body with the sole purpose of providing sexual pleasure and hence women wonder that if the sole purpose of the clitoris is to delight and excite then why ignore it.
Female ejaculation is for real too. When it is extensively stimulated it can deliver an intensely pleasurable orgasm, sometimes accompanied by an expulsion of fluid. Whilst all women have a clitoris, not all women seem to have a G-spot, and among women who have one, it varies in size and ejaculation may or may not occur.
Women are capable of attaining multiple orgasms unlike men who go through a refractory period during which no amount of stimulation can arouse them to orgasm. The refractory period in men may vary and can last for varying lengths of time. Women do not go through a refractory period and are capable of successive orgasms on stimulation. Most women have the ability to undergo multiple orgasms however they are unaware of the fact because they have never tried it
Some facts about orgasms:
1. An orgasm needn’t blow your mind
Not all orgasms are exactly the same. Unlike what we’re told like in the movies and porn videos, not every orgasm is going to be earth shattering, mind blowing, out of this world kind of experience. The strength of orgasm is not dependent on gender, but rather on muscle tone, arousal and type of stimulation, among other factors. Orgasm is marked by the release of tension more than the increase in pleasure. While an orgasm can be that intense, eruption we hear about, it can also be much less pronounced and defined. Many people find that all the activity before orgasm is more pleasurable, and orgasm just feels like a contraction and release, then it’s gone.
2. Every woman’s body is different
Every woman is capable of orgasm but each one has a different body and hence a different reaction to sexual stimulation. The more you follow your desires and explore what feels pleasurable to you, the closer you’ll get to experience those mind-blowing orgasms you desire.
3. Foreplay is important but is not sure shot
Foreplay is an important aspect of sex. However some women may enjoy it while it doesn’t arouse others. To each her own. It all boils down to what pleases each woman.
4. The clitoris is the female equivalent of the penis
The clitoris has nerve endings similar to the penis. The clitoris is to women what the penis is to men. Knowing this fact makes it easier to understand that the clitoris is the powerhouse of woman’s arousal and not the vagina.
5. Social factors can affect a woman’s orgasm
In society men’s masturbation and sexual activity is accepted and encouraged. They are expected to orgasm during sex so they are not uncomfortable asking for what pleases and satisfies them whereas a women’s pleasure is often seen as secondary to man. She is bound by societal norms, expectations and conditioning. This can affect the woman’s arousal and her ability to climax. Communication is the best way to overcome these thoughts and aim for a better healthy fulfilling sexual experience.
6. Only penetration will rarely result in an orgasm
70% of women do not orgasm from penetration alone. It is absolutely normal if the woman does not climax on intercourse. Nothing to worry about. It is perfectly fine to ask your partner to stimulate you clitorally or anally if you’ve not come. As a woman you deserve to be pleased too. Do not allow yourself to be left high and dry by your man. Make your demands and ask your partner for more!
Remember that knowledge is power. Arm yourself with the above knowledge and lead a fulfilling healthy sexual life. Enjoy!